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I hear from people all the time about their frustrations over family members sabotaging their organizing efforts. They put organizing systems in place, but other people living in their home don’t (or can’t) keep them up.

When I get these questions, I always feel a little awkward.

Like, maybe they didn’t notice the name of this site.

Because when people start complaining about how other people just can’t seem to get (or keep) it together, I know I’m that person. The one who can’t keep it together.

Not that I don’t understand both sides. I’m a mom. I get it.

My answer has always been to focus on yourself and what you’re doing (and not doing) first. Put systems in place and maintain them on your own (to work out the kinks) before bringing your family in on things.

But . . . I recently had a huge moment of understanding brought about by a comment on this post about how lovely it was to have the space available to move things around.

I couldn’t understand why my full cupboards got so messy from others. My husband explained that my cupboards were like playing tetris and no one had time for that game. So, I started weeding them out with everything I learn from you. Where I have successfully weeded my cupboards stay nice and my family helps. Where things are very crowded there is mess and back up and no help. Hmmmm. Less really is more. More help! Thank you, Nony!

Oh. My. Word. Lightbulb moment.

All I can say is YES!!!

Andrea’s husband explained it so well.

Let’s Define Clutter

My definition of clutter is anything that consistently gets out of control in my home.

MY home is the key.

If a space is constantly going back to a state of chaos, there’s too much stuff in that space. When I realized/created this definition of clutter, I started making progress, both in decluttering and maintaining my home. I stopped worrying about how to best fit in all my stuff, and started reducing how much there was. The more I removed from a space, the easier that space was to maintain.

If I need to get something out of a cabinet and I have to dig and shift and rearrange other stuff to get to the thing I need, that’s a pain.

And I almost never think or have time to (or think I have time to) put everything back in place once I find what I’m looking for.

But if I just declutter the cabinet (not create complicated organizing systems with the goal of keeping more stuff), the less digging and shifting and rearranging I have to do to find what I need.

This makes the cabinet look and function more organized. Just by decluttering.

But how does this apply to your family?

Find Your Family’s Lowest Common Clutter Threshold

Clutter Threshold is a term I made up to explain why some people can handle having more stuff in their home than others.

Every person’s Clutter Threshold is different. It’s personal. Some people can have a lot of stuff and keep their homes under control, but if I try to have a lot of stuff in my home, it looks like a tornado hit my house.

I can’t handle having a lot of stuff in my home, even though I wish I could.

I found my personal Clutter Threshold through decluttering, and realized it was a thing only after I’d reached it.

When I declutter a cabinet or a closet or a room to the point where it stays under control easily, I’m under my Clutter Threshold in that space.

Multiple family members living together in a home means there are different people with different Clutter Thresholds.

Shared spaces will only stay under control when they reach the Lowest Common Clutter Threshold for the people who use that space.

How do you find this Lowest Common Clutter Threshold?

You can only find your family’s Lowest Common Clutter Threshold for a specific space by decluttering that space. You can’t figure it out on paper.

Just declutter. Remove things that are not essential for the purpose of that space and see how long they can maintain it.

If it continues to get out of control, declutter some more.

And then maybe a little more.

One day, you’ll realize the space is functioning the way you want it to function, and you’ll all be happier.

A note for the despairing mama who wishes it would just work the way she wanted it to work when she bought the baskets and racks and systems: Finding the Lowest Common Clutter Threshold only matters in shared spaces. Spaces used only by you (a craft room or a tool bench or your own closet) only need to meet your own personal Clutter Threshold. You can use all the bins and cubbies you want to use in those spaces (as long as you can keep them under control easily).

 

Need help decluttering? My book, Decluttering at the Speed of Life, will teach you everything you need to know to make progress (and never a bigger mess) in your home. It’s available wherever books are sold in whatever format you prefer to use (paperback, digital, audio). Learn more here.

There’s also a lot of free information here on the site to get you started. Learn more about that here.

And not free, but on sale right now, my video course, The 5 Day Clutter Shakedown, is half off through the 31st! Find out more here.

Cas Dawn and Dana teaching decluttering organizing and minimalism

Have you heard? I’ve teamed up with Cas from Clutterbug and Dawn from The Minimal Mom to bring you the course: Take Your House Back! Go check it out!

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